Should Your SO Have The Passcode To Your Phone?

A few days ago at an event I was having a conversation with a girl who wanted to know if she should give her boyfriend the passcode to her phone. He feels that he should have it especially because he gave her his. She thinks that’s bullshit.

I want to know what you think. Should your SO (significant other) have the passcode to your phone?

My answer is yes and I’ll use myself as an example.

I’ve had the passcode to Kyle’s phone since a we had been dating for a few months. We were at the point where we decided to be exclusive. We were spending a lot of time together and I was trusting him with my body.

I wish he wouldn’t have given me his passcode.

I didn’t ask for it to be nosey. I’m actually one of those women that will leave before I live wondering if a man is cheating. That shit is too much for me. If I even start to believe I need to check up on a man I’m out. I’ve been in that situation before and when I went looking I found what I was looking for.

I actually asked for his passcode because I left my phone home one day and I was at his house. I wanted to call someone and I remember casually asking him to let me use his phone and thinking that if he said no, erased something or tried to hide his passcode I was going to break up with him.


Because when you’re that intimate with someone on so many other levels there shouldn’t be anything in your phone to hide. Granted you shouldn’t snoop because that’s wrong but having a passcode just doesn’t seem like a big deal to me.

He gave me his passcode without missing a beat and I’ve had it ever since. He has mine as well so that he can use my phone if he needs to. Now that we’re married I know his email password and the password to every other account he has. I even know his Social Security number.

My point is that once you’re in a serious relationship you shouldn’t care if the other person has your passcode. You SHOULD care if they don’t trust you and feel the need to snoop all the time because that’s a problem.

Now let me know what you think in the comments.